What's a Gem Elixir and how can it help?
A gem elixir is a potent form of vibrational medicine; it is water that has been infused with the healing vibrations of crystals. Crystals carry strong energy, which can be imprinted into other substances. This is similar to the way that a room where you place a vase of flowers will take on the smell of the flowers. Same idea. We are taking the vibrations from a crystal, and adding them to the water.
Now, the water carries the healing energy, and can be used in many ways:
The sky's the limit with gem elixir. Keep reading to learn to make it!
We are taking the vibrations from a crystal, and adding them to the water.
Step One: Choose your Crystals
This step is important, because whatever crystals you put in, bring the energy you are going to get out. There are two approaches, and the first is the simplest and my personal favorite: use your intuition!
I wrote a whole article about it right here, but basically, I believe you subconsciously already know what is best for you, and can choose that, if you trust yourself. So go to a crystal shop and pick out something new--it doesn't have to be expensive--or choose from your existing collection.
But don't neglect to do your homework! Some crystals are toxic, and should never, ever be put in something you intend to drink. I mean, not unless you want to die a horrible death, and I'm going to assume you don't.
Check this resource here for a list of unsafe crystals from Hibiscus Moon. She's the fun and sparkly teacher that I got my crystal healer certification from, and has a lot of really helpful information on her website.
Oh, speaking of homework, this is the other way that you can choose crystals to use. There are many wonderful books that I use for information on crystals, or find great intuitive advice here, or very thorough information here! It's possible to google for a specific need you have, too. For example, if you are looking for a crystal for healing heartbreak, you can google that, and lots of ideas will pop up.
Or reach out to me in the comments here or directly, and I'll be happy to offer my personal opinion on what crystals would be a good fit for your personal needs. I'll discuss some recommendations for specific needs later in this tutorial, too!
Basically, we are baking unicorns.
Step Two: Assemble your Supplies
This is almost like baking a cake. We chose our recipe, now we will assemble our ingredients, and then next we will bake our cake! Except we are baking with magical vibrations, and the ingredients are gorgeous sparkly crystals! Basically, we are baking unicorns.
Here we go! You will need:
bless the heck out of the gem elixir, and call on Spirit to infuse it with divine healing light.
Step Three: Combine Crystals with Water, Add Light and Intention
So now we are ready to put our crystal cake in the oven...hee hee...I mean, add our crystals into our water and infuse them with light. To make sure everything has the highest vibrations possible, we are gonna clean everything first, though...I mean, you already physically cleaned everything, right?
But we also need to energetically clean the supplies, in particular the crystals. There are several ways you can address this, but my personal favorite is smudging. I recommend you smudge the heck out of the crystals, the space you are using, the other supplies, and hey, yourself while you are at it. Why not? I promise you'll feel lighter!
Ok, all clear and clean? Now combine the crystals and the water in your glass jar, and bring them to your chosen space in the light. The most potent times for light infusing are at midday, between 11 am and 3 pm roughly. Or, for moonlight, at the full moon and the three days leading up to it.
You can do this as simply or as ceremoniously as you like. Myself, I like to bless the heck out of the gem elixir, and call on Spirit to infuse it with divine healing light. I am sure the additional prayer energy makes it that much stronger. Do what feels comfortable to you.
Then leave it to infuse for at least several hours, or up to three days. The sun and/or moon are doing the work for you, just like when you leave your cake in the oven to bake. Whoo!
I made these fun labels up with markers and stuck them to the bottle with packing tape.
Step Four: Bottle your Magical Gem Elixir
This is a fun step. I always think of formula 86 from the Witches, really a very disturbing movie from my childhood, although of course that's an evil potion. But, that bottle.
All that's left to do is strain the crystals out of the water, and then pour your freshly made gem elixir into bottles.
Top with vodka in a ratio of one part vodka to two parts water to preserve the elixir. This will keep it fresh for a very long time!
I made these fun labels up with markers and stuck them to the bottle with packing tape.
Recipes for Gem Elixirs
These basic recipes offer a template only; experiment with your own combinations to find the recipe that works best for you.
Gem Elixir for Heart Healing:
rose quartz, morganite, and emerald
Gem Elixir for Grounding
black tourmaline, ruby, and smoky quartz
Gem Elixir for Spiritual Connection
clear quartz, amethyst, and apophyllite
Gem Elixir for Protection
black tourmaline, jet, and quartz with chlorite
Happy crystal gem elixir making! Please let us know in the comments below what your experience is with gem elixir! If you are familiar with it, do you have a favorite recipe for gems to combine? If not, did you find this helpful? Looking forward to hearing from you.
So much love,
I was feeling so good last week, like I was on top of the world. I had just interviewed for the job of my dreams, and my optimism was untouchable...or so I thought.
Until I got the email that changed everything. My bubble of optimism popped, just like that, as I skimmed along the body of the email and learned...I didn’t get it. They had offered it to someone else. My stomach sank, along with my mood...to tell the truth, I felt just awful.
Things don’t always go the way we want. As much as we might read about the law of attraction, ultimately, some things seem to be out of our control. Deep breath...
I knew I needed to turn things around, but first, I had to deal with what was real and what was present for me. I came up with these five invaluable steps to coping with disappointing events.
One...Feel it to Heal It.
This has been one of my mantras lately. "Feel it to heal it" is simple and powerful, which according to expert Sonia Choquette in her beautiful book on manifesting, is exactly what affirmations should be, to reach the subconsious mind. I’m probably not the first to think of this affirmation, but it came to me out of thin air one day, and I really like it.
Think about it...how can we possibly hope to heal, if we don’t first stop to get in touch with how we are feeling? Suppressing emotions does no good at all in the long run.
I’m reading a book by David Hawkins, called Letting Go, that my friend Laurie Elle turned me on to, with an urgent, “you need to read this book.” In the book, Dawkins describes his simple process for letting go. It begins with allowing the emotion to come up, and run its course. He compares it to draining water; if we don’t let the water out, it simply stays, and can fester. If we do drain it, it will run itself out and then be gone. It’s a powerful process for dealing with challenging emotions. Why not give it a try?
So I let myself have a good cry, and really feel how badly I had wanted that job, and how crushed I felt at being overlooked. It hurt, more than I like to admit. And what’s more, it brought up lots of past hurt feelings I associated with it...with my fear of failing. Read last week’s post about this fear here.
So what to do with these thoughts?
Two...Let Those Negative Thoughts Go!
Be nice to yourself, dammit! Why is this so hard for us? We’ve just had a major disappointment, things feel really challenging so...let’s beat ourselves up? No! And yet, this often seems to be my first response. “You failed, how could you have been so hopeful, you should have tried harder,” blah blah blah, NOT helpful, inner critic.
So bench that inner critic, and cultivate a kind inner voice. My mom’s favorite bit of advice in these situations is to imagine we are speaking to someone else, a friend or family member, and they have just been really let down about something. What do we say to them? Kind, encouraging things! Let’s talk to ourselves in the same way, and kick those nasty negative thougths to the curb.
Three...Give Yourself Space
Hey...it’s ok to take some time to heal. I know this is the digital age and everything is instant, instant, but...we are organic, we have hearts that are really sensitive, and not getting what we want can be very painful. It’s important to honor your process, and this ties back to step one.
My urge is that I need to be better already...it’s been a few days since I got the news, but the truth is, I’m still adjusting to it. The bright shiny future I had been imagining was suddenly snatched away, and I have to re-adjust.
Buddha says that attachment is the cause of suffering, but until we are fully enlightened beings, guess what? We are gonna get caught in the trap of attachment, and it’s gonna hurt! So give yourself space to process and release.
Ok, not really, but this feels like a great time to be kind to myself; to take that hot bath, write in my journal, and listen to Snatam Kaur (who I saw in concert last night...so healing and heart opening!) Click this link to enjoy her healing sounds. Extra little things like this are very nourishing, and can help to ease the healing process. (hello, chocolate? clearly invented for these moments.)
Five...Remember What You Really Want
Mystic poet Rumi says, “let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.”
Deep breath again. So...why did I want that job? It wasn’t the exact job that I needed. My soul is on a mission, and it feels urgent, as many lightworkers report. This beautiful letter for a lightworker from the amazing Rebecca reminded me of this.
I can’t know exactly how my path will look, but I do know I’m being propelled forth by my heart. My very soul is aching to find meaningful work and be of service to humanity. My passion for compassion and awakening is so real to me, so vivid, and I long to share it with the world.
So I’ll reset my compass, and go back to the drawing board again, and keep job hunting, keep trying to manifest the career and life I truly want...because I know that I’m worth it.
So, don’t give up on yourself, but recall what your true desire and purpose is, and keep moving towards it! I have faith that we will get there, and that the journey is the important thing...
I have so much faith in you,
PS Tell me what you think! Have you experienced disappointment lately? If so, how did you deal with it? Do you feel like your soul is on a mission? <3
i am confronting a huge, very painful, fear of failure right now. it’s something i’ve never looked at head on before, and i’m amazed how deep and pervasive it is. fear of failure, by extension, is a fear of trying.
i am afraid to try new things, because i might fail at them.
when i sat down with these feelings and thoughts, with the intention of finding clarity, several things became clear right off the bat. first of all, past evidence clearly shows that i have the potential to succeed at things. second, there is zero potential to succeed at things which i do not attempt. forgive the blinding obviousness of this logic train; i promise i am going somewhere helpful.
third is that master yoda says, “do or not do, there is no try.” jedi masters are mysterious, but my conclusion is that trying is merely a step on the way to doing.
right now, my life is in transition. i left the safety net of monastic community; and now i’m actively searching for a new community, and for meaningful work. finding these two things is my current goal. this week i interviewed for a job that i would love to have, working at a meditation society on the communications team. the organization aligns deeply with my own purpose, and i love the idea of working with writing, one of my lifelong passions.
However, at this point, it is completely out of my hands whether i am the successful hire or if it goes to another, surely very deserving, person. part of me is clinging hard to the notion that if i don’t get picked, that i will have “failed”. yet, i don’t know the bigger picture, and i have to trust that whatever happens will be for the best.
whether or not i get this particular job, i won’t have “failed”. i’ll simply be either closer or farther from accomplishing my goal of finding meaningful work in a supportive, mindful community. renegotiating the way i think about this is incredibly transformative.
Buddha said in the Dhammadda,
“We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.”
our minds are our most powerful tools. the way that we shape our thoughts can be a choice, either moving away from, or towards, happiness. calling myself a failure, judging others as failures, is out of alignment. the deeper truth is, that there is no failure; that we are already perfect, just as we are; that life is a journey, and this is not the final destination.
so we don’t give up; we choose to be brave, and keep trying.
we can’t fail; we are already all that we need to be, so we just keep going, keep growing. it’s all within our reach, if we just believe it to be so. with effort, the mind can be trained to frame things in more helpful ways. meditation can help; affirmations can help. i discuss this in an earlier post here if you are drawn to explore it.
when i first heard about this job that i interviewed for, my reaction was immediate. “oh, i can’t do that.” i didn’t even bother to read the description carefully. that self-limiting thought just popped right up, telling me to stop, not go outside my comfort zone, not bother to try because...I MIGHT FAIL. gasp.
obviously i did apply, or i wouldn’t be telling you that i got the interview. but i didn’t apply that day, or the next, or the next. some small deep voice in me called me back, whispering, very quietly...”try”...and i resisted. i was afraid to even try, literally so afraid to fail that i was afraid to apply for a job that, once i read the description, was well within my level of qualification and strengths. a job that i really want, that could help me to meet my goal of finding soul-nourishing work.
as i say, i don’t and can’t know what the outcome of this attempt to find meaningful work will be. but i can and do know that if i had listened to the voice of fear, i would not even have the chance of landing this position. i would have failed more surely than i could possibly fail at this point. because i’ve put myself out there.
i’ve tried, and i’ve learned things in the process, and whatever happens, i can be satisfied with that. and i can and do know that, while i may or may not get this specific position, i WILL find meaningful work, i WILL reach my goal, because i’m going to keep trying until i do.
and when i think about it like this, i already HAVE meaningful work, in the form of this blog, and of the energy healing services that i offer to the world. i’m simply in the process of expanding my life to include more meaningful work, moving from success towards even wilder success. when i shift it to these terms, i feel gratitude and amazement. i am lucky and blessed already!
i am beginning to understand the old wisdom, which tells us that the only true failure would be never to try. moving towards our heart’s aspirations is a journey, not a pass/fail test. as long as we are learning and growing, then we are truly on a noble and worthy path.
conversely, when we hold back from making our best effort, we short the world of the great things we know deep inside that we are capable of achieving. we tell ourselves, we might fail, it’s dangerous, it’s vulnerable. and sometimes, we give up before we even start.
yet, if failing is simply a matter of having not yet attained our goals, then the only way we can fail is if we chose not to take action towards those goals. as long as we are moving towards what we believe is meaningful, then we never fail; we simply haven’t yet succeeded as fully as we are capable of doing.
i’ll close with a quote from Marianne Williamson:
“Success means we go to sleep at night knowing that our talents and ablities were used in a way that served others.”
I like that very much. i know it’s time that i redefine my relationship with the meaning of failure and success. how about you--do you hold yourself accountable to strict concepts of failing and succeeding? if so, do you feel it holds you back from trying sometimes? do you agree with Marianne’s definition of success? let us know in the comments below!
Aligning with Wholeness is now officially Aligning Wholeness! When I was on hiatus from the digital world, living the Zen life, someone else snapped up my beautifully-named original domain. Well, who could blame them? So when I re-opened, I selected aligningwholeness.com as my new home on the interwebs. In order to keep things consistent, I am switching the name to Aligning Wholeness here and over on my Facebook. Thanks so much to my loyal readers and followers!
Also if you were a follower of the original Facebook page, I apologize but that page was deleted in the transition. Please like and follow me again for updates and inspiration!
a familiar tension in my stomach alerted me to the facts. anxiety, present again. it’s been a frequent visitor these past days, months, years...tight belly, shallow breath, tense muscles in my neck, face, shoulders, like i want to squeeze my hands close, grip reality, shape it to a safe, controllable form. but it’s like squeezing water, it always slips from my grasp. i can’t control things, and that seems like a terrifying thought, like life is this weird flying dream, and i’m suspended in midair, with no idea how to keep from falling.
so often, i will slip into distraction. pick up a book, turn on the tv, get a snack...turn on the laptop, browse social media. not now. it’s time to face this fear. i sit down to meditate, focusing in on my belly, center of the energy of fear in my body. i listen to myself, very closely. then i can hear it, a low murmur, like the sound of whispering voices in the wind, or a quiet river in the distance. i bend closer to myself, and i hear what the voices are whispering.
“you will fail.” “you will fail, and you will always be a failure.” “you will end up miserable all your life. you will not be fulfilled.” “you will have to work at walmart and never find meaningful work.” and with the voice I see images, of dismal futures, and of young girls and women, myself, at younger ages, curled up into fetal position, terrified of life, of its wild, uncontrollable nature. i hear these young ladies, so afraid of failing, and i recognize something. they are telling stories. just stories, and i’m so surprised i murmur this aloud to myself. “stories!”
i let go of the stories, because i know stories aren’t real. they are like dreams. then it is just the frightened young women and girls in my deep self, and i start to tell them a new story. “you never failed,” i whisper to them. “you are learning and growing. this is a beautiful journey. we are creating our own story, though there are many things we cannot control, we can always choose what our story is.
so, here is our story. "i can, and i will.” i repeat that phrase, and it seems to sink deep into my belly, echoing around the frightened fragmented younger parts of myself. then i sink into body sensation, and the fear is just an energy, just tension and pressure and movement, and all at once it is moving, releasing, and i am laughing and crying, both at once, as sometimes happens when a big release occurs. i can, and i will is moving deeper and deeper within me, weaving itself into my being.
since this day, i have taken "i can and I will" as the powerful tool that it is. this affirmation helps me to fight my anxiety, to push back against the inner critic, that terrible bully that is always trying to keep me small. but that's not who i am anymore. i am someone capable and powerful (thanks Nahko, for another of my inspirational phrases.)
when i have the patience and the compassion to really be there for myself, i have the ability to release the old negative programming, and to replace it with new, loving thoughts. this practice feels like it is empowering my life! i feel a surge of beautiful hope, even in the midst of anxiety, expanding my heart mind, and helping me to let go of my fear stories, when i remember to replace negative self-talk, with mindfulness of the emotion, coupled with positive, loving affirmations. i encourage you to experiment with using affirmations. I think you will be as glad as I am to have this helpful tool to work with anxiety.
What's your experience? Have you ever tried affirmations? If so, was it helpful?
So much love,
I wasn’t planning to re-open this website. Then, yesterday, I was sharing a meal and a conversation with a dear friend. She’s a fellow blogger, and we were speaking about my website. “I’m not going to open it again,” I told her. “My inner critic has a party telling me that nothing I publish is good enough.” “Why do you write?” she asked, insightfully. “What was the reason you wrote your blog in the first place.” And just like that, I remembered. I reconnected with the mission that had urged me to launch this blog, this business, in the first place. It was clear, and simple.
“To help people,” I said earnestly. “I learned so much that helped me on my healing journey, and I wanted to share that with people.” “That,” she replied, very wisely, “sounds much more important than what your inner critic has to say.” And I knew she was right; and I felt inspired to relaunch, inner critic be damned. (Right now the inner critical voice is whispering, “this is pointless. No one will read this anyway. It’s too long, not riveting enough. I tell the voice to hush, I am writing...)
Just over a year ago, I closed this website to embark upon a journey into the dharma. I began as a working guest, living and volunteering at the Insight Meditation Society, in Barre, MA, close to my hometown. After this beautiful interlude, I travelled to the West coast, and spent seven rigorous, exhausting, amazing months living at Great Vow Zen Monastery in Oregon. This time to practice meditation and mindful living in community has been an incredible gift, opening and touching my heart in ways that I can’t truly convey. All I can tell you is that when I think of the blessing this has been to my path, I’m overwhelmed with tears of something like pure joy and gratitude.
The truth is, I never intended to leave the monastery, at least, not yet. I arrived at the same time as two other amazing women, Chloe and Christy. After seven months of practicing together, the three of us all decided we were ready to make a year-long commitment to live and practice at Great Vow. At the monastery, such commitments are marked by formal ceremonies, performed in front of the whole community. On the very eve when the three of us were to take our ceremony, I received communication from my mother. She had fallen, on the ice. She had broken her hip, and was unable to walk. As she lives alone, please, could one of her daughters come home to care for her?
I have two sisters, one of whom is a long-term resident and magical unicorn fairy princess at the monastery, aspiring to one day ordain as a Zen priest. The other, a powerful, loving healer, lives in Portland, OR, and our loving mother lives in our childhood home, in Massachusetts. The three of us called a meeting, and we decided that I would be the one to return home and care for our mother. As I am the eldest, and had the least commitment to be on the west coast, this did make sense. Still, I had mixed feelings as I watched my two friends take their commitment ceremonies the next day, and then made the long journey back east.
I still thought that I would return to the monastery after mom got back on her feet. There’s an ache in my chest at the fact that I never got to properly say goodbye, say thank you to the community, to the roshis, to the grounds. I will go back, one day soon, but only to visit. Ah, it’s such a marvelous place, full of magical beings of light and love and brave warriors facing incredible personal pain and physical discomfort, chanting the bodhisatta vows day after day, offering reverance in the zendo with the act of silent meditation...
But I have a dream. I don’t want to be separate from the world. I want to be a help to the world! There’s a deep part of my soul that wishes to find meaningful work. I’ve been so focused on myself, on my practice, my healing. Now, I want to offer back. and it feels joyful! so, I’m here again, in Massachusetts...and I am looking for a job where I can be of benefit. The process is bringing up many fears and anxieties about the future...and I’m using my meditation practice to work with the fear, turn towards it, instead of away. Zen practice taught me that I do have the strength to face myself. So I am facing my inner critic, and writing anyway, and putting it out to the world, with the intention and the hope that it will be of benefit. May my words be a blessing to you, and may you be well, and peaceful, and find ease and know deep joy.
So much love,
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