Friends, lately it seems every time that I turn on my computer, I see the darkness in our world, in our country.
Violence, recriminations, anxiety about the safety of our friends, our cities, ourselves.
The collective air feels heavy, like the sky before it rains.
When I see the darkness, I have to remind myself.
To find the light, to BE the light. That's the medicine we all need.
I look within myself to find it, and I look to my heroes, the people and teachers that inspire me.
One life-long hero has always been Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr, and there was a quote of his that was playing at the edge of my mind.
Thanks to Google, it only took a quick search to find it, although searching Youtube for a video recording of it proved fruitless.
Still, I can imagine him saying it, with his passionate, powerful voice, so full of hope and faith...
I share it now in the hopes it will bring you some light, too, because if you are online, if you are a conscious being in this world, you might need it.
The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral,
begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy.
Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it.
Through violence you may murder the liar,
but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth.
Through violence you may murder the hater,
but you do not murder hate.
In fact, violence merely increases hate.
So it goes.
Returning violence for violence multiplies violence,
adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness:
only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
so much love to you,
PS how are you feeling about the recent events in Charlottesville and elsewhere? Does your heart ache, are you angry, do you want to do something, do you feel hopeless? Let me know in the comments below.
What if you could talk to angels? What if they could bring you messages to uplift and inspire you?
Angels or spirit guides or high self or intuition or inner guidance system. If you aren't a little bit woo-woo you won't know what I'm talking about;
but heck, if you aren't a little bit woo-woo, you probably wouldn't even be here...
I work as a channel, which means I have studied and practiced ways to open my intuition, and communicate with what I see as spiritual beings, guides on the path.
You could think of them as parts of the collective consciousness if that makes you feel better. It sounds more science-y and less woo.
Me, I go all-in on the woo.
I have a secret; I can talk to angels. Now it's not a secret anymore.
I have another secret.
You can talk to angels. Yes, you.
Anyone can. Intuition is part of our natural inheritance as spiritual beings. And I can teach you exactly how you might clearly and accurately hear what they want to say TO YOU.
WHY would I want to talk to angels?
Why would you want to know this? Oh, believe me, angels have important messages. They can offer support, encouragement, and guidance to your life.
Most importantly, they are always loving. It's like having a built-in support team; always cheering for you to succeed.
So what is the number one message angels wish us to hear? Keep reading to find out...I'll get to it as soon as I've explained a bit more about the "how" to talk to angels.
From Doreen Virtue's beautiful Archangel guidance card deck
How is connecting with angels done?
There are lots of methods for connecting with angels, including working with angel cards, learning to read signs and omens, and learning channeled speech or writing.
One of my spirit heroes, the lovely and inimitable Doreen Virtue, has a wonderful channel on Youtube where she shares her weekly angel card reading. This lady is THE expert on angels, and you can learn all about them from her books.
Next week I'm going to share a very special technique that can instantly connect you to your spiritual GPS.
But for this week, I'm going to share a message my angels gave to me.
What do angels most want us to know?
This is literally the most repeated phrase I hear my angels tell me when I check in for guidance.
They say it over and over, so I know it must be important.
They say it when I am freaking the hell out over something, and things feel really hectic.
They say it when it's late at night, and dark, and I'm worried there might be an axe-murderer in the closet.
They say it when I'm feeling blue and lonely, and wondering if I will ever meet Mr. Right.
They say it when I'm on the verge of panic because nothing seems to be going right.
You know what they say in all these situations?
"Relax, dear one, all is well."
That's it, just, "relax, dear one, all is well."
Sometimes I want to disagree with them, no, clearly things are not well right now, but there is just something so comforting about the way the message comes.
It calms me down; there is a palpable energy with it, of things-being-ok. I can sense it. Even if on the surface things seem wrong, there is a deeper agency at work here.
All really IS well; as the poet said, "whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should."
The simple fact of connecting with my higher guidance system, my angels, my intuition--the very act of connecting with something larger than myself is in itself an act of reassurance.
When I connect, I am reminded that on some level, all is well, and I can let go of worry and fear.
When I sat down to have a conversation with my angels about fear, they had more pearls of wisdom to share. Here's what they told me.
"Relax dear one, all is well. (See? They ALWAYS drop that truth bomb.)
All is always well. (And they bring it up a notch.)
Even when fear arises. Fear is small.
Love is vast. YOU are vast.
Fear cannot overtake something so vast as you are, just as a single cloud cannot overtake the sky. (Love that--it's so poetic!)
Let go of the fear, of the belief that it can harm you, take you, make you something other than love.
That is never possible.
You are love, you can only be love. Anything else is illusion, deception, hiding from the Self.
"Your essential nature is peace."
The message carries a high vibration of love to uplift.
Yes!!! I don't know about you, but I find something so uplifting in the angel messages, I can literally feel my heart lifting and my vibration raising.
This is powerful stuff! I hope this article brought you some inspiration and uplifted you! Let me know in the comments what you think about angels--do you believe they are real? Have you gotten feelings or signs that they are trying to communicate with you?
Please check back next week to learn a powerful technique where you can connect to angels yourself to channel a loving angel message!
until then, So much love, xoxo
...because the world needs your unique gifts
How many times have we delayed doing something we really wanted to do because "we weren't ready?"
I know I have been guilty of this, many times.
What if Mozart had said, "I can't compose yet, I'm not ready." What if Shakespeare had said it? Or Britany Spears? Or Steve Jobs?
The world would be a very different place.
All of these people had something in common. They started; they created.
I don't know if they questioned themselves along the creative process. Maybe, maybe not. If they did, the answer was always YES.
Yes, I can create this. Yes, this is good enough to share with the world.
Creating something, whether it is art, or writing, or a business idea, takes a certain amount of healthy ego.
We need to have the conviction that what we create is worthy of existing.
Nowadays it seems like most people are always questioning this most basic right; the right to exist, to take up space, to create things and put them out there for the world to share.
No one can decide it for us. WE have to decide, "I am going to have the courage of my convictions. I know that I am worthy, and I will do my best to create worthy offerings to the world."
That's what creation is; it is an offering, your unique gift to the world, that only you could create.
it is an offering, your unique gift to the world, that only you could create.
Your voice is unique, your perspective is unique, and your ideas are unique.
You, my friend, are a one-of-a-kind individual, with gifts that you alone can bring to this world. You carry your own brand of medicine inside you.
Doubt is the enemy of productivity. A little doubt is good; too much doubt will destroy everything.
There's only one remedy to doubt that I know of, and that is faith.
Please, have faith in yourself, that whatever you create is worthy of existing.
Believe that there is someone out there, maybe a lot of someones, who are looking for exactly what you are creating.
None of us are experts. Not even the so-called experts.
We are all of us works in progress; all of us learning as we go.
No one, and I mean no one, knows everything.
Newsflash: everything is always perfect.
So take a leap of faith, and just begin.
Begin whatever it is you have been longing to begin; start writing that book about your life that you've always been waiting to write. Let yourself start painting that masterpiece, and stop thinking it has to be perfect on the first try.
Newsflash: nothing is ever perfect.
Newsflash: everything is always perfect.
I would not be here writing this blog post if I had waited til I was "ready."
I would still be wavering in uncertainty, not knowing if I could truly offer anything of value.
Yet here I am, writing...here you are, reading. I do hope you take some value from this, and hear the lesson I'm trying to impart.
You have something of value to share with the world, but you must believe in yourself first, and then just begin.
Because the world needs your unique gifts. Don't make it wait a minute longer.
Tell me, what project has your soul been crying out to do? Art, music, starting a business, taking an adventure? What exactly are you waiting for? Let me know in the comments!
Until next time,
So much love, xoxo,
I was feeling so good last week, like I was on top of the world. I had just interviewed for the job of my dreams, and my optimism was untouchable...or so I thought.
Until I got the email that changed everything. My bubble of optimism popped, just like that, as I skimmed along the body of the email and learned...I didn’t get it. They had offered it to someone else. My stomach sank, along with my mood...to tell the truth, I felt just awful.
Things don’t always go the way we want. As much as we might read about the law of attraction, ultimately, some things seem to be out of our control. Deep breath...
I knew I needed to turn things around, but first, I had to deal with what was real and what was present for me. I came up with these five invaluable steps to coping with disappointing events.
One...Feel it to Heal It.
This has been one of my mantras lately. "Feel it to heal it" is simple and powerful, which according to expert Sonia Choquette in her beautiful book on manifesting, is exactly what affirmations should be, to reach the subconsious mind. I’m probably not the first to think of this affirmation, but it came to me out of thin air one day, and I really like it.
Think about it...how can we possibly hope to heal, if we don’t first stop to get in touch with how we are feeling? Suppressing emotions does no good at all in the long run.
I’m reading a book by David Hawkins, called Letting Go, that my friend Laurie Elle turned me on to, with an urgent, “you need to read this book.” In the book, Dawkins describes his simple process for letting go. It begins with allowing the emotion to come up, and run its course. He compares it to draining water; if we don’t let the water out, it simply stays, and can fester. If we do drain it, it will run itself out and then be gone. It’s a powerful process for dealing with challenging emotions. Why not give it a try?
So I let myself have a good cry, and really feel how badly I had wanted that job, and how crushed I felt at being overlooked. It hurt, more than I like to admit. And what’s more, it brought up lots of past hurt feelings I associated with it...with my fear of failing. Read last week’s post about this fear here.
So what to do with these thoughts?
Two...Let Those Negative Thoughts Go!
Be nice to yourself, dammit! Why is this so hard for us? We’ve just had a major disappointment, things feel really challenging so...let’s beat ourselves up? No! And yet, this often seems to be my first response. “You failed, how could you have been so hopeful, you should have tried harder,” blah blah blah, NOT helpful, inner critic.
So bench that inner critic, and cultivate a kind inner voice. My mom’s favorite bit of advice in these situations is to imagine we are speaking to someone else, a friend or family member, and they have just been really let down about something. What do we say to them? Kind, encouraging things! Let’s talk to ourselves in the same way, and kick those nasty negative thougths to the curb.
Three...Give Yourself Space
Hey...it’s ok to take some time to heal. I know this is the digital age and everything is instant, instant, but...we are organic, we have hearts that are really sensitive, and not getting what we want can be very painful. It’s important to honor your process, and this ties back to step one.
My urge is that I need to be better already...it’s been a few days since I got the news, but the truth is, I’m still adjusting to it. The bright shiny future I had been imagining was suddenly snatched away, and I have to re-adjust.
Buddha says that attachment is the cause of suffering, but until we are fully enlightened beings, guess what? We are gonna get caught in the trap of attachment, and it’s gonna hurt! So give yourself space to process and release.
Ok, not really, but this feels like a great time to be kind to myself; to take that hot bath, write in my journal, and listen to Snatam Kaur (who I saw in concert last night...so healing and heart opening!) Click this link to enjoy her healing sounds. Extra little things like this are very nourishing, and can help to ease the healing process. (hello, chocolate? clearly invented for these moments.)
Five...Remember What You Really Want
Mystic poet Rumi says, “let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.”
Deep breath again. So...why did I want that job? It wasn’t the exact job that I needed. My soul is on a mission, and it feels urgent, as many lightworkers report. This beautiful letter for a lightworker from the amazing Rebecca reminded me of this.
I can’t know exactly how my path will look, but I do know I’m being propelled forth by my heart. My very soul is aching to find meaningful work and be of service to humanity. My passion for compassion and awakening is so real to me, so vivid, and I long to share it with the world.
So I’ll reset my compass, and go back to the drawing board again, and keep job hunting, keep trying to manifest the career and life I truly want...because I know that I’m worth it.
So, don’t give up on yourself, but recall what your true desire and purpose is, and keep moving towards it! I have faith that we will get there, and that the journey is the important thing...
I have so much faith in you,
PS Tell me what you think! Have you experienced disappointment lately? If so, how did you deal with it? Do you feel like your soul is on a mission? <3
i am confronting a huge, very painful, fear of failure right now. it’s something i’ve never looked at head on before, and i’m amazed how deep and pervasive it is. fear of failure, by extension, is a fear of trying.
i am afraid to try new things, because i might fail at them.
when i sat down with these feelings and thoughts, with the intention of finding clarity, several things became clear right off the bat. first of all, past evidence clearly shows that i have the potential to succeed at things. second, there is zero potential to succeed at things which i do not attempt. forgive the blinding obviousness of this logic train; i promise i am going somewhere helpful.
third is that master yoda says, “do or not do, there is no try.” jedi masters are mysterious, but my conclusion is that trying is merely a step on the way to doing.
right now, my life is in transition. i left the safety net of monastic community; and now i’m actively searching for a new community, and for meaningful work. finding these two things is my current goal. this week i interviewed for a job that i would love to have, working at a meditation society on the communications team. the organization aligns deeply with my own purpose, and i love the idea of working with writing, one of my lifelong passions.
However, at this point, it is completely out of my hands whether i am the successful hire or if it goes to another, surely very deserving, person. part of me is clinging hard to the notion that if i don’t get picked, that i will have “failed”. yet, i don’t know the bigger picture, and i have to trust that whatever happens will be for the best.
whether or not i get this particular job, i won’t have “failed”. i’ll simply be either closer or farther from accomplishing my goal of finding meaningful work in a supportive, mindful community. renegotiating the way i think about this is incredibly transformative.
Buddha said in the Dhammadda,
“We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.”
our minds are our most powerful tools. the way that we shape our thoughts can be a choice, either moving away from, or towards, happiness. calling myself a failure, judging others as failures, is out of alignment. the deeper truth is, that there is no failure; that we are already perfect, just as we are; that life is a journey, and this is not the final destination.
so we don’t give up; we choose to be brave, and keep trying.
we can’t fail; we are already all that we need to be, so we just keep going, keep growing. it’s all within our reach, if we just believe it to be so. with effort, the mind can be trained to frame things in more helpful ways. meditation can help; affirmations can help. i discuss this in an earlier post here if you are drawn to explore it.
when i first heard about this job that i interviewed for, my reaction was immediate. “oh, i can’t do that.” i didn’t even bother to read the description carefully. that self-limiting thought just popped right up, telling me to stop, not go outside my comfort zone, not bother to try because...I MIGHT FAIL. gasp.
obviously i did apply, or i wouldn’t be telling you that i got the interview. but i didn’t apply that day, or the next, or the next. some small deep voice in me called me back, whispering, very quietly...”try”...and i resisted. i was afraid to even try, literally so afraid to fail that i was afraid to apply for a job that, once i read the description, was well within my level of qualification and strengths. a job that i really want, that could help me to meet my goal of finding soul-nourishing work.
as i say, i don’t and can’t know what the outcome of this attempt to find meaningful work will be. but i can and do know that if i had listened to the voice of fear, i would not even have the chance of landing this position. i would have failed more surely than i could possibly fail at this point. because i’ve put myself out there.
i’ve tried, and i’ve learned things in the process, and whatever happens, i can be satisfied with that. and i can and do know that, while i may or may not get this specific position, i WILL find meaningful work, i WILL reach my goal, because i’m going to keep trying until i do.
and when i think about it like this, i already HAVE meaningful work, in the form of this blog, and of the energy healing services that i offer to the world. i’m simply in the process of expanding my life to include more meaningful work, moving from success towards even wilder success. when i shift it to these terms, i feel gratitude and amazement. i am lucky and blessed already!
i am beginning to understand the old wisdom, which tells us that the only true failure would be never to try. moving towards our heart’s aspirations is a journey, not a pass/fail test. as long as we are learning and growing, then we are truly on a noble and worthy path.
conversely, when we hold back from making our best effort, we short the world of the great things we know deep inside that we are capable of achieving. we tell ourselves, we might fail, it’s dangerous, it’s vulnerable. and sometimes, we give up before we even start.
yet, if failing is simply a matter of having not yet attained our goals, then the only way we can fail is if we chose not to take action towards those goals. as long as we are moving towards what we believe is meaningful, then we never fail; we simply haven’t yet succeeded as fully as we are capable of doing.
i’ll close with a quote from Marianne Williamson:
“Success means we go to sleep at night knowing that our talents and ablities were used in a way that served others.”
I like that very much. i know it’s time that i redefine my relationship with the meaning of failure and success. how about you--do you hold yourself accountable to strict concepts of failing and succeeding? if so, do you feel it holds you back from trying sometimes? do you agree with Marianne’s definition of success? let us know in the comments below!
a familiar tension in my stomach alerted me to the facts. anxiety, present again. it’s been a frequent visitor these past days, months, years...tight belly, shallow breath, tense muscles in my neck, face, shoulders, like i want to squeeze my hands close, grip reality, shape it to a safe, controllable form. but it’s like squeezing water, it always slips from my grasp. i can’t control things, and that seems like a terrifying thought, like life is this weird flying dream, and i’m suspended in midair, with no idea how to keep from falling.
so often, i will slip into distraction. pick up a book, turn on the tv, get a snack...turn on the laptop, browse social media. not now. it’s time to face this fear. i sit down to meditate, focusing in on my belly, center of the energy of fear in my body. i listen to myself, very closely. then i can hear it, a low murmur, like the sound of whispering voices in the wind, or a quiet river in the distance. i bend closer to myself, and i hear what the voices are whispering.
“you will fail.” “you will fail, and you will always be a failure.” “you will end up miserable all your life. you will not be fulfilled.” “you will have to work at walmart and never find meaningful work.” and with the voice I see images, of dismal futures, and of young girls and women, myself, at younger ages, curled up into fetal position, terrified of life, of its wild, uncontrollable nature. i hear these young ladies, so afraid of failing, and i recognize something. they are telling stories. just stories, and i’m so surprised i murmur this aloud to myself. “stories!”
i let go of the stories, because i know stories aren’t real. they are like dreams. then it is just the frightened young women and girls in my deep self, and i start to tell them a new story. “you never failed,” i whisper to them. “you are learning and growing. this is a beautiful journey. we are creating our own story, though there are many things we cannot control, we can always choose what our story is.
so, here is our story. "i can, and i will.” i repeat that phrase, and it seems to sink deep into my belly, echoing around the frightened fragmented younger parts of myself. then i sink into body sensation, and the fear is just an energy, just tension and pressure and movement, and all at once it is moving, releasing, and i am laughing and crying, both at once, as sometimes happens when a big release occurs. i can, and i will is moving deeper and deeper within me, weaving itself into my being.
since this day, i have taken "i can and I will" as the powerful tool that it is. this affirmation helps me to fight my anxiety, to push back against the inner critic, that terrible bully that is always trying to keep me small. but that's not who i am anymore. i am someone capable and powerful (thanks Nahko, for another of my inspirational phrases.)
when i have the patience and the compassion to really be there for myself, i have the ability to release the old negative programming, and to replace it with new, loving thoughts. this practice feels like it is empowering my life! i feel a surge of beautiful hope, even in the midst of anxiety, expanding my heart mind, and helping me to let go of my fear stories, when i remember to replace negative self-talk, with mindfulness of the emotion, coupled with positive, loving affirmations. i encourage you to experiment with using affirmations. I think you will be as glad as I am to have this helpful tool to work with anxiety.
What's your experience? Have you ever tried affirmations? If so, was it helpful?
So much love,
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