Pema Chodron famously said that you are the sky, everything else is just the weather. She was referring to the quality of the mind that is simply aware of what is happening, without being attached to any particular outcome, or in judgement that events are "good" or "bad". This is a natural state of being that we can all learn to tap into. Meditation is one classic way to train the mind and allow this quality to come to the forefront.
She says you ARE the sky, not you could become the sky. You already possess this quality...this open, generous, expansive state of awareness....in fact, it's your natural state!
So the practice is simply finding ways to pull this quality to the forefront...What is the weather? The weather is what is arising and passing, arising and passing. Much of the time, we do not control the weather. Do we ever control it?
Here is a metaphor. It is a rainy day, and I hate the rain. I wish it would stop. I am grumpy and miserable all day. The next day, it is sunny, and I love the sun, and I am so happy! But, I wish it would never end...I'm so sad when the sun sets on that glorious day.
What is happening here? I am identifying with the weather...letting my happiness depend upon it. Just so, if we look to external things to make us happy or upset us...then we will always be at their mercy. And of course the outer world will, to some extent, affect us. We have our natural preferences.
But...if we can hold that sky-like quality, and be more expansive...and let things simply be as they are, without wishing for them to be different...on a rainy day, just letting it rain and not needing it to stop to be happy...on a sunny day, enjoying it without wishing it would never end...we can learn to be much more centered, much more content to simply watch the changing flow...
because just like the weather, just like the sky, existence is in a constant state of motion, of change...Buddha says this is the way things are, and that our suffering as humans arises from the way that we cling to the things we want, and push away the things we don't want. Can we learn some wisdom from the sky, on allowing things to be as they are? Can we find equanimity in a constantly changing, often challenging world? yes, we can, if we practice!
So much love,
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I'm an energy healer with a passion for compassion, a sparkly love affair with crystals, and a deep commitment to evolving awareness.